In order for your child to develop control over her bowel and bladder, both her physical and mental development will have to be advanced enough. Her muscles must be strong enough to hold urine and faeces. Her muscles must do this when the brain transmits the appropriate signal. For this to happen, your child must be able to make the connection between inner sensations and the conscious need to pass urine or stools. You will know that your child is aware that she has a full rectum or bladder when she stops what she is doing and points at her diaper or tries to attract your attention by crying or shouting.
- Has bowel movements at about the same time every day
- Can stay dry for a few hours, or wakes up dry from sleep
- Can pull her pants up and down
- Lets you know when she has soiled his/her diaper (likes to stay dry)
- Can tell you she has to go to the bathroom
- Wants to do things "by myself"
- Enjoys washing her hands (like to be clean)
- Once she has become accustomed to using the potty, the next step is to encourage her to use the lavatory. She may feel a little insecure because it is so much larger. In order to make her feel more secure and supported, use a specially designed seat that fits inside the toilet rim.
- Once she has become accustomed to using the potty, the next step is to encourage her to use the lavatory. She may feel a little insecure because it is so much larger. In order to make her feel more secure and supported, use a specially designed seat that fits inside the toilet rim.
- Introduce the potty in a casual way. Put it in a room where your child plays most often. The kitchen is a good place, so you can supervise. It will also encourage your child to use it more often if it is in plain view. Let your child play with it so she will get accustomed to it. Then show your child how it works. Once your child is used to the potty-chair, you can start to encourage use of it.
- At the beginning of training, increase fluids to encourage practice. Encouraging practice will help your child learn the basic potty skills. In addition, you will want to make sure your child eats lots of fresh fruit and vegetables. You want to keep your child's stools soft to prevent withholding. When you see any signs that your child is about to go (passing gas, wriggling, holding crotch or telling you), quickly tell your child it's time to use the potty.
- All co-operation with attempts at using the potty should be praised with words like, "What a big girl! mona is using the potty just like mommy"! Also, remember to praise your child for every successful potty use. This will help build self-esteem.
If your child is reluctant or refuses to use the potty, try to encourage her by offering to read a story while sitting on the potty. If this still does not work, back off and do not push her.
It only takes ONE painful BM to cause your child to be frightened of using the potty, so at all costs, make sure his/her diet has sufficient fresh fruits, vegetables and juice. If your child has a painful BM only once while trying the potty, it could delay potty training for months. He/she will associate painful BMs with the potty and will refuse to use it. If you suspect that your child is withholding his/her stools, it is best to stop training and increase the fluids. Always call your pediatrician if you think your child is withholding. It can be serious if an impaction occurs. Tell your child at that moment, that he/she is not ready yet and that you will try again later.